New Year Reflections

Remaining Positive During Hard Times

How many people do you know who stay positive during tough times?

How often do you stay positive when troubles come?

How do you handle situations when the tough times hit?

As the end of 2018 approaches and a new year begins in a few days, I sat down to review my journal, curious about how the year went.

I decided to start with the beginning of my journal, which began in December 2016. I didn’t read every post, just did a quick skim through the pages.

Wow! The one thing that really stood out for me was how much I’ve grown spiritually and emotionally.

And if someone were reading my journal, especially over the past year, they wouldn’t suspect all of the turmoil I’ve gone through — quitting a new job to come home and raise my twin preschool-age grandsons, putting my business on hold indefinitely, setting aside my wants and needs because my grandsons needs came first, and so much more.

I truly expected to see all of these events, and the feelings and emotions surrounding them chronicled in these pages.

Instead, nearly every post I’ve written focused on what I’m grateful for. I was honestly surprised!

It really showed me that in the face of adversity and grief, turmoil and sacrifice — I remained positive.

Many of us bottle up our feelings, or lash out at our loved ones, or find comfort and solace in food, drink, or drugs. Or we throw ourselves into our work, anything to numb the pain.

But when you have a strong sense of self, when you’ve done the inner work to be comfortable with who you are and where you are, when you’ve faced your demons — it’s easier to come through those storms in our lives still intact.

Slightly battered, bruised and beaten up but still WHOLE.

And that’s what I realized 2018 did for me. It beat me up, left some bruises, and left me feeling battered but I prevailed. If anything, it really tested me on how far I’ve come in my spiritual journey.

It made me face aspects of myself that I thought I’d overcome — lack of patience, for example — and look for ways to work through it so I can better handle myself. (You quickly figure out your strengths and your faults when you’re in your 40s raising little kids again!!)

It’s still a work in progress but the main thing I discovered was the importance of self-care. When I don’t take care of myself, I end up taking it out on everyone around me. I no longer feel in alignment with my Self and feel out of balance.

So I made a plan to ensure that I do yoga, meditation, journal, and exercise at least 3 times a week. When I connect with myself I become a better version of myself, which is better for myself and everyone around me.

How about you?
What was your 2018 like?
How did it make you grow as a person?
What are some lessons you’ve learned, blessings you received, and insights to take forward into the new year?

Love and Light,

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